That grabbed your attention right? That wasn’t the intention, but that is the truth of the matter. There is a f*ck ban on me. Not exactly what you think – just I am banned from saying f*ck. You see, I can’t even write it!
So, I have to take you back a few years. Violet was just learning to talk, and one day she said ‘f*ck’s sake’ – in her own cute childish voice. It was barely recognisable, but the fact that she had copied me right out the gate brought it home to me that my baby was listening, talking AND repeating now!
I don’t sweat THAT much – it’s not a regular in my lexicon, however, if I get really frustrated or angry, it’s the only way I can express that frustration. I do it without thinking and I’m a bad mummy for it. Yes, I know, I’m being a bit melodramatic here!.
So over the years I have taught my kids that it’s a bad word (as well as several others I might utter) and that I shouldn’t say it and that they definitely shouldn’t say it!
Lead by example right? Yes, I know, but I have found it difficult to do this.
My kids are pretty good in that they know what words are bad and don’t use them. Yet, recently Violet has been testing boundaries and repeating my curses more and more. I told her in no uncertain terms that she should not say it.
And, quite calmly, as any six year old would, she said ‘mummy, I won’t say it if you won’t’.
And there it was. Said like any expert negotiator. In a way that there was no backing out of. I had to do this. And so far, I have.
That’s not to say I don’t swear at all, but I make a concerted effort not to swear when they’re around.
Some may think, ‘but of course that’s a given – don’t swear in front of your kids’ – but it’s harder than you think!